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Toronto Portrait Photographer || HEARTshots || Black + White Photography

Memoirs and musings of Darius Bashar. Toronto portrait photographer and writer, in pursuit of all things real, raw and intimate. 

Morning Meditation For POSITIVE ENERGY

In my opinion, mornings are the best time to activate our power and manifest magic. This 20-minute morning meditation will help you remember how freaking POWERFUL you really are.

BIG LOVE,

Darius 🙏🏽

PS: If you’re looking for a FREE collection of Guided Morning Meditations, I’ve got you covered —> https://www.artistmorning.com/free-meditation-for-creativity

PPS: Come meditate with me live. We meet as a group on Zoom every Wednesday and Friday at 9am EST. Sign up here for free —> Free Group Meditation / @artistmorning

Writing Prompt: Social Media You vs. Real Life You

Pull up any one of your social media pages and compare “that person” to yourself in real life. Then I want you to consider the following 3 questions…

Question 1: Is this what I really look like?
Question 2: Is this how I actually speak? Is that my voice?
Question 3: Is this how funny or fun I am in real life?

Here are my answers…

Question 1: Is this what I really look like?

Yes, this is what I look like in real life. But if you take a look at my older posts, photos of myself were rare. It took a lot of work for me to finally realize that I was hiding behind my photography and that I did not want the world to see ME. Now my social media feed has lots of photos of me—you can actually see my face! I love that dude. 

Question 2: Is this how I actually speak? Is that my voice?

Social Media D has a more serious and more poetic tone than Real Life D. I think this is okay, but I also I think there is room for me to bring my real voice to my social pages a bit more.

Question 3: Is this how funny or fun I am in real life?

Definitely NOT. Real Life D is WAY more fun; anyone who really knows me knows how freaking goofy I am. I am not sure why, but this side of me seems to be missing from my social. 

I’m curious why Goofball D doesn’t feel allowed (or maybe doesn’t feel safe) to play on my social media pages. Especially now that people are experimenting with reels and shorter format content that works so well with humour. 

To be honest, it feels more risky to me to attempt to make ‘em laugh than it does to go deep and be vulnerable. Naked pictures and stories about challenging times in my life somehow feel safe now, yet lighthearted goofball content feels scary AF. 

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NOW IT’S YOUR TURN. Ask yourself the same 3 questions and let me know if you learned anything. Do you feel like there’s room for the real you to show up on your social media? Which part of you feels the most underrepresented and why?

MORNING MEDITATION for Positivity (15 Minute GUIDED Meditation)

This morning meditation for positivity will help you start your day off feeling grounded, calm and excited for the possibilities of the day.

Positivity meditations are a powerful way to start your day, as they allow you to deepen your connection to your heart and to your higher self.

This 15 min morning meditation is also a great tool for anyone that wants to unleash their creativity.

BIG LOVE,

D

PS: If you’re looking for a FREE collection of Guided Morning Meditations, I’ve got you covered —> https://www.artistmorning.com/free-meditation-for-creativity

PPS: Come meditate with me live. We meet as a group on Zoom every Wednesday and Friday at 9am EST. Sign up here for free —> Free Group Meditation / @artistmorning

What a ride

There is no such thing as ready. 
There is no such thing as perfect.
And there is nothing we need to create. 
We get to create. It’s a privilege—NOT a chore. 

Also, our days are numbered on this cosmic rollercoaster ride called Earth. 
Tomorrow is never promised to any of us. There are no exceptions.
This is not a bad thing; it’s actually a really beautiful thing. 
We are ALL sacred and whole from the beginning to the end.

Your move. 

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Takes Risks

Fun fact about me, my first ever photoshoot was a commercial fashion shoot. This is not the normal place most photographers start, as it’s way more intense than a free shoot with friends or family. The stakes are high, the team is huge, and the expectations are enormous—rightfully so.

I had been working as a filmmaker and cinematographer for a few years, so I was not starting from scratch. But honestly, I had no idea how to use strobe photography lights and had exactly zero experience communicating with fashion models (which I’m sure you can image is important for a FASHION shoot).

Needless to say, there were many sleepless nights leading up the the shoot. But I wanted to make sure I was as prepared as possible. So I practiced with my friends and even myself. I watched as many YouTube videos as possible. I ran through scenarios in my head.

The great news is that the shoot was a BIG success. The client was very happy, and ended up booking me for over a hundred more shoots over the next 5 years.

Here’s the lesson I learned from this experience…

Big risk CAN equal big reward. But to make this work, 3 things are crucial to the equation:

1) A rock solid team. I hired the best humans I could find; without them I would have fallen apart.

2) Crystal-clear communication with the client and team. Managing expectations and making sure everyone is on the same page is CRUCIAL.

3) An opportunity. I needed someone to take a chance on the new guy on the block. For this, I will always be grateful to @cestmoiclothing, @sandrabastone and the man in charge of it all Larry (@larryezerzer), the owner. He saw talent in an untested photographer and took a risk.

The risk worked out great for all of us. Years later, and I am still working with C’est Moi Clothing.

Here are some photos from our most recent shoot.

Huge thank you to the team who supported this shoot. You guys are freaking rockstars. 🌟

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Model: @paigedubrul

Hair & Make-up: @kellyd.makeup

Production design + styling: @sandrabastone & @ariellaezerzer

Digital Tech: @misha_ras

Lighting Support: Sean Tate

Editing: 85Retouching

Photography: @dariusbashar

PS: Special shoutout to Sarah Morales. She was my first stylist and my rock for at least the first 50 of those shoots. Her support, mad talent and kindness were essential and will forever be appreciated.

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Meditation for SELF LOVE and Acceptance (20 minute MORNING MEDITATION)

This Self-Love Meditation is a bit different from the others. It has a very powerful self-love visualization in the middle that can quickly and effectively bring you to a place of self-acceptance and self-compassion.

Give it a try and let me know how it goes.

Sending a shoutout to my brother from another mother @SoulBrotherDane for being the beautiful human in the thumbnail below. 

Big LOVE and happy Hump Day!

D

PS: If you’re looking for a FREE collection of Guided Morning Meditations, I’ve got you covered —> https://www.artistmorning.com/free-meditation-for-creativity

PPS: Come meditate with me live. We meet as a group on Zoom every Wednesday and Friday at 9am EST. Sign up here for free —> Free Group Meditation / @artistmorning

Congrats Dr. Stephanie Estima!

It’s really cool photographing people over the course of a few years—especially humans that are on a mission to change the world. Over the past 2 years, I have photographed Dr. Stephanie Estima 4 times.

Immediately during our first shoot, I could feel a powerful energy inside her. Shortly after, Dr. Stephanie launched her now super successful podcast called Better! She just crossed 1,000,000 downloads, which is HUGE. She interviews the top thought leaders on the planet on the topic of health, fitness, sex, intimacy, longevity, parenting, mindset, and pursuing excellence. I have personally recommended her podcast to so many people and they always thank me. 

It was awesome watching Dr. Stephanie grow and impact millions. It was also a lot of fun for me to see our photos all over the internet, as she used one of our HEARTshots as the cover for her podcast. :)

Fast forward to fall 2020 when we shot our most recent photoshoot for the cover of her first book, The Betty Body, which launches today. It was amazing to witness her acceptance and comfort with becoming a world-class thought leader. 

She had a lot of confidence during our past shoots, but there was something even more magical about Dr. Stephanie this time. There was a radiant lightness to her. Although she was taking on a lot more responsibility with the massive success of her podcast and her upcoming book, somehow she felt like a kid playing. 

Keep shining that glorious light of yours into the world, Dr. Stephanie. I can’t wait for our next shoot and to meet the next version of you. And congrats on your book launch.

I absolutely love how the photos turned out and I’m getting another big kick watching as they spread across the internet and the world. I just bought copies of your book for my partner Jenn and my mother. I know they are going to love it. 

Big love,

D

PS: If you want more info on Dr. Stephanie’s book, here’s the link → https://bettybodybook.com // @dr.stephanie.estima 

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"Don't Be A Lazy Entrepreneur"

I’ve been an entrepreneur since I was a teenager. That’s over 2 decades. For almost that entire time I somehow forgot about every single long weekend holiday. 

Instead of taking a little extra time to rest and recharge I would double down and use the day to “catch up” or do more work. 

Today, for the first time I want to try something different. 

I want to take the day off. 

As I write this I feel guilt building up inside me. I feel like a bad entrepreneur. Like I’m being lazy. 

It’s funny cause I don’t feel this way about any other entrepreneur that decides to take the day off: only me. I actually admire them and think to myself, “I guess they are ahead of me and have figured out how to make it work.”

My to-do list is long and deep. But honestly, it’s always been that way. No matter how many things I get done, it keeps growing like a game of Tetris. 

I have a few meetings today that I probably can’t reschedule, which is often the case when I don’t pre-plan for holidays. 

Maybe today I’ll attend those unmovable meetings and clear as much of the rest of my schedule as possible.

And maybe today I go ahead into my schedule for NEXT YEAR and book off Family Day long weekend.

Does anyone else forget about long weekends until it’s too late? 

PS: In case you were wondering, Family Day in 2022 is Monday, Feb 21.

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Photo by Faramarz Hashemi

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HEART MEDITATION (Guided 15 Minute MORNING MEDITATION)

There are so many intense things happening in the world today.

For many of us the solution is to guard our hearts, by placing walls between it and the world.

I get it. I do this too. Sometimes it's actually needed, but most of the time it ends up meaning I lose connection with my beloved heart.

This simple 15 minute guided morning meditation will lovingly help you reconnect with your heart and your truth.

BIG LOVE,

D

PS: If you’re looking for a FREE collection of Guided Morning Meditations, I got you covered —> https://www.artistmorning.com/free-meditation-for-creativity

PPS: Come meditate with me live. We meet as a group on Zoom every Wednesday and Friday at 9am EST. Sign up here for free —> Free Group Meditation

HOW DARE YOU PLAY SMALL?

I used to really struggle with speaking from my heart. I used to bury my truth from the world, worried I might burden people and feeling embarrassed if I took up too much space. 

Don't get me wrong… There is great value in humility and making space for others, but that’s not what this is about. Playing small is not humility. Quite the contrary, playing small is an act of selfishness.  

At the crux of playing small is a limiting belief that states:

"If I get too big, I won't be loved."

What I've experienced in my life is that when I speak from my heart and let my light shine through, I end up giving others permission to do the same. Playing big activates the light in others and allows you to bond and connect with people on a much deeper level. This actually creates more opportunities for love in your life. 

Standing boldly in your power and letting your light shine through is a very important gift we give our community and the world. It inspires others to do the same: to seek out their own truth and follow their hearts. This is a great responsibility and privilege we each hold.

The game-changer for me was in realizing that the light that shines through me is not actually mine at all. It belongs to God. And when we deny that light from shining through us, we are denying God. 

Joseph Campbell said it best:

"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are."

Personally, I'm done playing small. It does not serve me, my community, or The Universe. 

So shine bright my friend.

Before it's too late. 

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The beautiful human in these photos is my dear friend Luciana. You can learn more about her and her magic here —> https://www.instagram.com/lucianawithlove

- Originally written Jan 03, 2018