I had a dream with many naked men... and loved it.
I had a vision in my dream last night that I can’t stop thinking about. This vision found me again in my meditation this morning.
It was like watching a film in super HD resolution. The transmission was crystal clear.
It was about the collaboration and publication of a book—unlike any book I have seen before.
The title was Soft Men.
These 2 simple words placed next to each other are very triggering for me.
I was taught by society that a soft man is undesirable. There is no room for men to be soft in our world: soft bellies, soft penises, softness of the heart—these are all seen as shameful.
We literally use the word “soft” to describe a man that is weak; “He’s gone soft.” We demand that men be hard at all times.
Yet I have so many soft men in my life, for whom I am deeply grateful. It took a lot to find them, but they are here now. And I know of others that I follow online and respect deeply. And the vision I had for this book was to capture these soft men through beautiful black and white portrait photography. Each photo collection paired with an intimate essay written by the person being photographed.
The men in the book will all be nude.
The photos will be raw, real and intimate.
Beautifully soft.
(And in this vision? I was in the book too. Also naked. Also soft. Also beautiful and raw.)
Normally I’d keep an idea like this a secret, and maybe tell one or two people. Normally that would result in no accountability. And 9 times out of 10, the project would go nowhere. Lost like a dream, with no anchors to reality.
But I want to make this book.
Because I want to honour the incredible soft men in my life.
I want to find more soft men in the world and celebrate their courage.
I want to encourage more men to open their hearts and soften.
I want to show the world that soft men can change the world.
And I need your help…
I am looking for co-creators for this project. If you know any Soft Men who you think are aligned with this concept, tag them below. Men who are willing to strip away all their armour (and clothing) and let the world see their hearts.